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Lets Talk About Seizures and Iron

On September 8th, my husband and I were sitting on opposite couches watching television together. He made a joke, looked over, and thought I was laughing.  When he looked harder, he saw me shaking and thought I was choking.  My arms had been crossed over my chest, and he picked me up (!)  and tried to give me the Heimlich.  I guess when he saw my face, he realized that I was having a seizure.  He called 911 because I wasn’t breathing, blood was coming out of my mouth, I had bitten straight through my tongue, and they talked him through everything and sent the ambulance within minutes. (Sidebar:  apparently I was VERY belligerent to the firemen who showed up.  I don't remember this at all, and feel awful that it even happened.)
 
Other than that, I don’t remember a thing about it.  It was mostly traumatic for my husband, who really took the brunt of all of it.  I did end up with some battle wounds:   I bit almost clear through my tongue, twisted my ankle, and tweaked my back.  I tried to nurse all of those yesterday, but I’m really feeling the brunt of the pain today. 
 

Not being able to sing, talk, or practice trumpet is KILLING ME. 

 
They say that the mouth heals faster than any other part of your body, so hop to it, body!  I can deal with the back and foot (although they are pretty damn painful), but the tongue is just really an inconvenience for everything:  the above mentioned plus eating, drinking, or brushing my teeth.
 
I went to rehearsal and tried to sing, which quickly frustrated me:  I sounded like a lisping Cindy Brady every time I sang a work with an "S's" in it. Playing trumpet was even more traumatic because you use the tip and front of your tongue almost all the time.  Right now, it feels like my tongue has been given Novocaine and over a week later, it is still numb.
 
I’ve never had a seizure before and have no family history.  The ER tests couldn't pinpoint why this has happened, so we’re kind of on the hunt for what’s going on right now.  
 
The reasons they are focusing most on:
  1. My low iron levels
  2. That I may have bleeding ulcers again
 
I don’t feel like I do, but they are doing an upper GI next week to be sure, and I have a consultation with a neurologist as well.
 

But the moral of the story here kids is DO NOT SKIP YOUR VITAMINS!  

I am a well-known proponent for Wellesse and all it's liquidy awesomeness.  I'm usually pretty good about my multivitamins, but if I'm being honest, I've been slacking on the iron.   So from this point on, I carry my little travel bottles with me EVERYWHERE.  Low iron and seizures for me no more!
 
 
Diva Taunia is a professional musician and music educator in the Greater Los Angeles area.  She had RNY gastric bypass surgery on 03/25/2008 and has maintained a loss of almost 150 lbs.  You can visit her website at www.divataunia.com.
 
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Celebrity Encounters in the WLS Community: Tim Gunn

A few years ago, I was contacted by ABC to appear on their program "The Revolution."  They wanted me to do a segment with Tim Gunn on shapewear.  As soon as I heard Tim's name I jumped up and down like a lunatic.  I absolutely adore him.  I've watched nearly ever episode of Project Runway and have always loved his very thoughtful candor when his job was to critique.  I also think he has mad style and always looks amazing.  I was very, very excited to meet him.
 
I got to New York on the morning of the show and as I was walking up to hair and makeup, Tim Gunn was walking down the stairs.  With his usual zeal he said, "Taunia! It's so nice to see you!  I'm looking forward to our segment together."  He hugged me and we parted ways.  

Now, I know that those of us who are not celebrities generally question the authenticity of a celebrities actions, but I assure you:  Tim Gunn is one of the nicest, sweetest, warmest people I've ever met.

Now forward to wardrobe, who had clearly NEVER styled anyone who was post-op with extra skin.  They put me in the most ridiculous dresses.  Anything I loved on, they hated.  Anything they loved on me, I hated.  But still, I had very little say in what I was wearing.  

Oh, and did I mention that I was packed in like a sardine into probably a minimum of 6 shape-wear pieces?  

Many were from Slimpressions, but I wasn't allowed to say that on air.  I also wore Spanx and some Bali pieces.  My body was sculpted into something pretty damn amazing.  Never mind that whole not being able to breathe thing.
 
 
When I went out to the set to start to segment, he was very calming and sweet and joked that even HE wore shapewear.  He made it so easy to be in front of a group of people talking about my body and all the ways I strap it in.  The audience was really great too.  And I have to admit, I loved the gasp the audience made when Tim told them I had lost over 150 lbs.  

 
 

Being able to stand up there, proud of the choices I made, and having people support those choices with their applause was a pretty great moment for me.

 
After the show, Tim and I chatted for a bit and I got a quick photo with him. We talked a lot about weight loss surgery, and he is very supportive of people who chose that option to better their health.  Even though he deals with supermodels on a daily basis, I think he has a heart of gold for those who struggle with anything personal, probably because of his own personal struggles growing up.  I know I am kind of mushy about him, but he truly is one of the kindest, most genuine people I've ever met, and I'll always be grateful that I was able to work with him for a few brief hours.
 
 

This guest post was written by Diva Taunia, an award-winning Los Angeles musician and almost 7 years RNY Gastric Bypass post-op.

 
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Celebrity Role Models in the Weight Loss Community

CELEBRITY SERIES: CARNIE WILSON
 
Last night I was watching one of my favorite television programs, "Chopped," and it was the all-star celebrity series featuring someone we all know:  Carnie Wilson.
 
A few years back, Carnie Wilson had a reality show called "Unstapled."   I was admittedly not a fan, and I think that it's ok to not like something if it isn't your cup of tea. It's even ok to not like it when the show involves a topic so close to home and features a celebrity that many of us post-ops consider a pioneer in the field since she so openly and bravely had weight loss surgery and it was very publicly televised.  Her "Unstapled" reality show was just not for me.  
 
Instead of just not watching and keep my negative thoughts to myself, I decided to create a video blog about my opinions, and that was not ok.  And guess what I forgot when I made that video? Celebrities are people too.  People with feelings.  People who sometimes watch things on the interwebz.  
 

And yes, she did watch the video blog.  And then she called me.  SWEAR. TO. GOD.

 
She called me because she wanted to talk directly to me, without a camera in her face, without television editing, and wanted to connect on this common bond of surgery that we share.  At first I was freaked out that it was her (many people asked if it really WAS her, and believe me, it was).  After I talked to her a bit and realized some of my fairly harsh review comments hurt her feelings, I felt awful.  
 

But I apologized and she accepted.  

 
She was incredibly sweet to me despite my being a total jerk to (about) her.  I even made an apology video to which she responded all was cool with us.  Instead of  ignoring me as some type of internet troll, or even holding a grudge because of the mean things I said, she genuinely accepted my apology.  It truly humbled me.
 
After that, she appeared twice on my radio show, and we finally met in person in Las Vegas at the WLSFA conference.  She was once again very gracious, and we took some photos together.  After that, she spoke about her life after weight loss surgery and she was funny and sincere and talked about things we could all relate to. She made me laugh and made my cry, and after her speech I realized what a truly amazing person she is.  Yes, sometimes she can be loud, boisterous, and maybe even a little crass, but then again - so can I.  :)
 
(SPOILER ALERT)  During her episode of Chopped, she talked candidly about her love/hate relationship with food.  After she had the surgery, she realized that she needed to learn to cook so that she could be putting the nutrition she needed into her body, and also have the skills to make dishes that tasted great, but were still healthy for her.  She won and became a Chopped Champion.  And to me, she is also a champion of making the choices that she needs to make for herself, and having the grace to continue to work and grow.  And that's something we can all look up to.
 
 
This guest post was written by Diva Taunia, an award-winning Los Angeles musician and almost 7 years RNY Gastric Bypass post-op.
 
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The Awful Art of Comparison

"Comparison is the death of joy." ~ Mark Twain

In my last blog article, I wrote about being happy.  I think this Mark Twain quote is one of the most important things I've ever read, because it's incredibly true.  And particularly in the weight loss surgery community, it's almost impossible to not compare yourself with someone else.  Have I lost as much weight as everyone else in the same amount of time?  Why don't I look as thin as her/him. Etc, etc.  I know that if you are a weight loss surgery post-op, you know this all too well.

When I started participating in the community, I watched YouTube videos religiously.  I looked for women who were around the same build and height as me and tracked their progress so I could get an idea of how things would go for me.  I'd watch to see how much they lost, how their skin and hair changed, and much weight they'd lose each week.  That's a natural thing that we all do.  The surgery brings so many unknown variables, it was a way to see what the possibilities were.  But it was also something I became a slave to, all too easily.

As I got further out, I realized that maintaining was difficult.  I gained some of the weight back, but then stabilized.  Still, I would check in on other post-ops on YouTube and Facebook and beat myself up that I wasn't doing as well as them.   I finally got to a point where my body felt good - 165 lbs.  

That was my happy place.  

I stayed there for a few years too, and I stopped obsessing about how I was doing versus someone else.  

I got rid of my scale.  

I felt free.

Now at 42, I'm in my third year of perimenopause and on medication.  That, combined with some bad eating choices has brought on a 12 lb gain.  I knew it was time for me to get myself focused again.  

I brought the scale back out.  

I bought more veggies and lean proteins.  

I started paying attention again.  

But the one thing that I absolutely refuse to allow myself to do is compare myself to others.  I am unique.  My body is unique, it is mine and mine alone.  I refuse to allow comparison on my life, and so far, I've done well.  I'm down 5 lbs, but that's been a struggle.   What I find, though, is that the less I obsess, the less I compare, the less I beat myself up about a gain, the better I do at managing my weight.  I am focusing on what's right, what's positive, and what's working IS working.  I have seven more lbs to lose, which will likely be easier than the first five now that it's summer and I'm eating less and swimming more.  

Don't let comparison be the thief of your joy.  Don't compare yourself to anyone else.  YOU are unique.  YOU are YOU, and no one else.

SEE ALSO: Additions and Subtractions to Your Diet After Weight Loss Surgery

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Clap Along Now!

Right now, my husband is in his office playing "Happy" by Pharrell Williams on his guitar.  This is very apropos as he is just a very happy person in general.  I know that I'm biased because he's my husband.

I find his ability to be happy about even the smallest things in life very inspiring.  I can't decide if that's a gift that's he was given at birth, or if he works diligently on being happy.  I think it might be a little of both.   By his own admission:

It's the very simple things in life that keep him incredibly happy:  our marriage, our dogs, swimming in our pool, sitting on our porch.   

I think most people would say that I'm a happy person as well, but I have to work a lot harder at it than he does.  I battle a chronic anxiety problem daily,which my husband cannot understand at all.  Most people who don't deal with chronic anxiety don't understand it.  This, I get.  If you haven't experienced it, you don't understand it.  In fact, I deal with it daily and don't fully understand it myself.  I just work incredibly hard to manage it.  I do tons of reading on the topic, and I regularly have appointments with my primary care doctor, my therapist, and my psychologist. I have no shame in telling you that, because:

Being proactive about your mental health is equally as important as your physical health.

I know so many people who struggle with being happy.  To them, it just seems like this elusive emotion that they don't get or worse, deserve.  When I see or hear my loved ones and friends struggle with this, it breaks my heart because everyone deserves to be happy.  The one thing that I've learned in life is that most (not all, but most) of what happens to you is a choice.  You can choose to be happy, or not.  Sometimes that can be an incredible struggle - to choose happiness despite what might seem like intense odds against you - but you can choose it.

The thing about choices is that even when you make bad ones (of which I've made many), you can learn from them.  

For instance, while I generally don't talk about my first marriage, I learned a great deal from that and I think the things I've learned make my marriage now very strong, and very happy.  I really try to apply those learning experiences to life now, while making choices to be happy in the present, now.

My husband finds joy in everything around him.  He's incredibly positive, and inspires me to find just as much joy in the small daily things as he does:

Because I'm happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I'm happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I'm happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I'm happy
Clap along if you feel like that's what you wanna d
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SEE ALSO:  A Good Dose of Laugh Prescription for Your Health

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Dancing for Cardio Exercise

I always wanted to be a runner.  It seems like this really popular club that everyone belongs to now:  mini-marathons, full marathons, holiday runs, etc. etc.  I see posts all over my Facebook and Twitter pages, and I always long to be part of that club.  To wear the cute athletic clothing, buy the running sneakers, get the gear...oh wait a second.  I don’t want to run, I just want to shop and wear cute athletic clothing!  I knew there was something wrong with that.

Here’s the problem:  I’ve tried running. I’ve tried jogging.  I’ve tried fast-walking.  I hate it.  I don’t just hate it:  I DESPISE IT.  

As a gastric bypass post-op who has never had any reconstructive surgery, running is not an easy task.  Before I even hit the pavement, I would have to strap myself in with several shapewear and compression garments.  When you have hanging skin, running is probably the least comfortable activity you could participate in, at least, it was for me.

Yet I knew that cardio exercise is super-important, so I had to find an alternative.  I found it in dancing.

I’ve loved to dance since I was just a little girl.  In middle school and high school, all of my friends belonged to the local dance company and got to dance in these big productions all year long.  As a young girl battling her weight and self-esteem, I never allowed myself to participate in any of those activities, even though that I knew as a musician, my sense of rhythm and movement was pretty good.  But as a post-op, I didn’t care what anyone thought, and I decided to dance.

When I was morbidly obese at 311 lbs, I went out one night with a friend to a local jazz club in Boston. They always had great music playing live downstairs, and swing dancing upstairs with a live band.  We decided to go upstairs one night and just sat and watched - it was AMAZING.  People of all shapes and sizes, in period-retro clothing and get-ups dancing to a live swing band.  I immediately fell in love and decided to take the dance lessons.  It felt like a club that I *could* belong to.  It felt musical to me.  I loved it.  

I went religiously every Saturday night, and now - years and many, many classes later - I can dance a variety of ballroom styles:  east coast swing, west coast swing, salsa, samba, rhumba, meringue, bachata, fox trot, and more.  

I love to get dressed up, go out to someplace really fun and social, and trick myself every time into getting the best form of cardio exercise that my body has ever gotten.  

Plus, the people at these clubs and dances are some of the nicest folks I’ve ever met. It’s such a social type of dancing, and everyone is always welcome.  Even better, stronger dancers are always happy to jump in and help those just getting started.  It’s really the nicest community of folks that I’ve ever had the pleasure of meeting.

I’ve also tried Zumba and adult modern dance.  I love those classes too.  Thankfully, being a musician allows me the confidence to know that I won’t make a complete fool of myself rhythmically, and I’ll try almost every form of dancing at least once.  Zumba feels a lot like Latin dancing to me:  it’s challenging physically, but also very expressive and “adult” in a way.  I try to make those classes when I can, but I can also find some great free resources online.   

Interested in seeing if dancing is something YOU could do?  Check out these free resources online and you can practice right in the comfort of your own home AND get some great cardio exercise:

LEARNTODANCEONLINE.COM

BALLROOMDANCERS.COM

FREE YOUTUBE EAST COAST SWING DANCE LESSONS (easiest ballroom dance to first learn)
FREE YOUTUBE SALSA DANCE LESSONS

FREE ZUMBA LESSONS

SEE ALSO: The Shape of Things to Come

Diva Taunia is a professional musician and music educator living in the Greater Los Angeles area.  She can be found at www.divataunia.com or www.twitter.com/divataunia

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Fighting Perimenopause

I decided to have weight loss surgery at almost 36 years old.  You may recall that I wrote a post earlier here on the Wellesse blog stating that the one thing I wish I had done differently was to make the decision earlier.  Still, life is what it is, and at 42, I now face the challenge of working through perimenopause and my erratic mood swings. (Note:  the challenge probably lies more with my husband, who feels the brunt of my emotional antics. He should be knighted.  Honestly.)  Read more about perimenopause and it’s symptoms here and here.

I found out that I was in perimenopause about two years ago.  My husband and I had talked about having children, and since we were both 40+, we knew we would need to see where we stood with fertility. I had the very unfortunate experience of learning that I was in perimenopause and that my chances of having a child were at 1%.  I spent most of the first year of perimenopause grieving that fact, and fighting off the initial stages of hot flashes.  It was not pleasant, but I got through it.

Now here I am over two years later, knowing that there are many more physical and emotional changes ahead for me in menopause.  My body is physically feeling the affects:  

  • I have gained 10 lbs, and have to work even harder now to keep the weight off (or stop myself from gaining more)
  • The hot flashes have increased in frequency and duration  
  • My mood swings are much more dramatic now
  • I often times feel like I am unable to control my mood despite any amount of logic and reasoning I try to apply

I know that I need to give my body better nutrients and supplements to help stave off some of the unfortunate side effects. So I began to research what vitamins and supplements help with this.

Now before I even begin to write what I found, I want to put the disclaimer out there: I am not a doctor (obviously), nor do I have any medical training.  This is just information that I have found from trusted resources from my own personal research online.  Please always check with your doctors and nutritionists before trying anything new.  (End disclaimer)

The following are natural herbs and remedies for perimenopause symptoms, many of which I have already implemented, some of which I still need to try.  If you have any experience with any of these, please tell us about it in the comments section.  Here is my list, and I wish anyone dealing with the same issues the best of luck!

CLICK HERE FOR DIVA TAUNIA’S LIST OF PERIMENOPAUSE REMEDIES

SEE ALSO:  What Would I Have Done Differently with My Bariatric Weight Loss Surgery?

Guest Post by Diva Taunia, a professional musician and music educator located in the greater Los Angeles area. More information can be found at www.divataunia.com 

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SHAPE Magazine Article Musings

Having an article about you in SHAPE magazine seems like it should be a really exciting thing, right?  And I WAS excited!

I made my husband stop at the store yesterday on our way home from school so that I could jump out and buy the magazine and read the article.  It had been so long since I was even interviewed - almost two years - that I barely remembered what is was about.  Unfortunately for me, when I opened the magazine, I recalled that it was indeed a "feature," on food addiction.  

I kind of rolled my eyes and shook my head, because it's not exactly what I want the world reading about me, but I had agree and there it was in all it's splendor: a small orange strip on the side of the page with my story.  Well, parts of my story, told in a voice that wasn't my own.  (You can read it here starting on p. 139-140.  My feature is on pg. 140 on a small orange strip on the side of the page, with no picture of me.)

​I had difficulty reading through it knowing that I would never have called food "my best friend."  (Despite what SHAPE Magazine may think, my ACTUAL best friends were a very large group of men and woman of all shapes and sizes.)  

But parts of the story are true as well:  as a newly post-op gastric bypass patient, I went through the typical mourning of food.  I tried to sneak in a bite of food that I knew my body wouldn't handle, and that did NOT go well.  Food got stuck in my throat and I made my mother promise to call me in 30 minutes to make sure I hadn't had a heart attack.  

Those first few years post-surgery were crazy.  Figuring out what you could and couldn't eat, figuring out how to deal with some of the demons that came along with binge eating, secret eating, unhealthy eating.  It was a lot to sort through.  I think I gave this interview when I was stuck right in the middle of these processes.

But one thing you'll read at the end of the article is true - as well as some very important advice that I'd give to others.  

GO TO THERAPY.  Even if you don't think you need it, go.  

Today, at size years out, my obsession with food is quite different.  I tend to obsess about amazing recipes that I see on the cooking channels and how I can make them even healthier.  My husband and I are crazy about salads, so I'm always trying to come up with a unique new dressing and salad​ combination.  We work out in our garden, walk our dogs, ballroom dance, and are just overall healthy and happy.  (Wait until the pool opens up for summer! Then I become a fish!)

I wish the focus on the SHAPE magazine article hadn't been on food obsession, but rather on the importance of eating well, getting in your vitamins and supplements, and most of all, taking care of your mental well-being.  

I am not ashamed to say that I go to therapy regular.  I have long-standing, deep-rooted issues well past just food itself.  Therapy gives me the tools to work through the in conversation, be in the present moment and having positive discussion with myself when things are tougher.  In other words, I feel a lot more prepared to battle my demons with food and the situations that make me want to eat.  No shame in my game.  My mental health is of utmost importance to me, and six years later after gastric bypass surgery.

So read the article with a grain of salt.  It's not really told in my voice, but hey, "any publicity is good publicity."  If I gets people asking questions and positive discussions come from it, I'm all for it.

SEE ALSO: Fat Acceptance Vs. Your Value

Diva Taunia is a professional musician and music educator living in the Greater Los Angeles area.  She can be found at www.divataunia.com or www.twitter.com/divataunia.

 

 

 

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Fat Acceptance Vs. Your Value

This week has been a particularly interesting one for discussions between me, friends, and a whole bunch of strangers.  I should start with my friend Dagny Kight, author of an amazing book called "Powerful Hunger."

Dagny has a very distinct delivery in her writing as well as her opinions:  she's a straight-shooter.  She doesn't sugar-coat anything and has done intense amounts of research on many facets of both "why" we get fat and also how our society treats overweight people.  If you haven't read her book, I highly recommend you do.

Dagny and I talk pretty frequently me as a six-year post op, and her as a size, health, and exercise advocate, so we often talk about subjects that deal with weight, acceptance, and truth.  

You read that last part correct:  truth.  

In fact, we just had a conversation the other day about a particular "self-help"  giant whose whole message is "when you believe you are lovely and lovely enough to be loved, things will change for you."

The subtext is always "when you finally love yourself, you will lose weight."  Dagny's point with this particularly misguided approach was that if you believe this message to be true, you also have to believe the corollary:  you must hate yourself if you're fat and you made yourself fat because of your own self-hatred.  And of course, neither of us are on board with that particularly screwed up version of reality.

Fast-forward to an article Dagny sent me to read by a very-well known Fat Acceptance Activist, Marianne Kirby called "I'VE ONLY GOT ONE THING TO SAY TO FOLKS WHO DON'T UNDERSTAND FAT ACCEPTANCE."  The article was actually written in response to another article written by Carolyn Hall titled "6 Things I Don't Understand About The Fat Acceptance Movement."  If you're a perceptive type of lass like I am, you can see that the article titles alone are going to garner some serious and most-likely heated debate.  (The comments section on each are OUT. OF. CONTROL. YO!)

So Dagny and I have been tossing around the topics of discussion throughout the week.  There was even a bit of somewhat heated debate on my Facebook wall about this.  So I may as well tell you where I stand with this:

I was, and mentally always WILL be a fat girl. My body size has changed, but I'm still extremely sensitive to the issue that overweight and morbidly obese men and women deal with on a daily basis.  Prior to my surgery, I tried everything under the sun to lose weight.  I'd get successful in small doses, and then my body would just stall.

My friend Dagny is of the thought process that some.bodies.will.just.be.fat.  I agree with that.  

I am built like my father's side of the family, and weight issues abound there.  There's genetics at work and/or it's about issues?

I grew up eating processed foods because that's why my two working parents could afford to feed four hungry children and two dogs.  Back then, there wasn't nearly as much nutritional information available, and as we great older, became responsible for our own food choices, we still held onto "comfort" food.

I think from the start, I was always going to be someone who would have to work to manage their weight, no matter what.

After my surgery, many foods and drinks that I had previously loved tasted AWFUL to me.  In a way, those early post-op experiences helped me learn to cook and prepare healthier dishes and foods, and now I drinks TONS of water.  It's really the only thing I drink at home outside of coffee.

Back to the "fat movement". I feel stuck between two worlds on this.  

I do firmly believe that every single person in our society deserves respect, kindness, equality, and the ability to live their lives the way they see fit.  But I also know as a former 320 woman how deeply - both physically and mentally - morbid obesity can affect your life and the lives around you.  

One of the comments that I read in the article were from a poster who said:

"Because despite your desperate wish to believe otherwise, being fat is NOT a choice. 
It is not something we can control. And you think it is, which makes you an idiot."

I immediately wrote back:  I have to politely disagree. While you may not LIKE the choices, you DO have choices and it IS something you can control. (From a former morbidly obese 311 lbs gal.) After working very hard to take control of my weight,I realized that surgery was what you needed and I made that choice that would be save my life.

Here is where I think that both the Fat Acceptance Movement AND our society get it wrong:  

Your value, your worth, is NOT defined by the size pants you wear, what number is on the scale.  How you feel about yourself is completely, 100% your choice.  No one can take that away from you, no matter WHAT size you are.  

I think it's possible to really feel very confidently about yourself as a person (you're intelligent, kind to others, active in the community, and so forth), but also simultaneously dislike that your body is fat and want to do something about it.

Did I hate my body when I was fat?  YES, absolutely.  

I hated that I couldn't walk a block down the street without being winded and feeling painful heel spurs.  I hated that with a passion.  

But if you asked me if I hated myself?  No.  Absolutely not.  I could sing.  I could play piano, I was a great teacher.  I had a ton of friends.  My weight didn't decide any of that.  

Now granted, did I deal with hateful and snide comments sometimes?  Yes, absolutely.  But I choose to ignore them and never gave THEM the power to determine my worth.  

And now, at 165 lbs, do I think I am any better of a person?  No.  I'm healthier, which in turn makes me happier, but I'm not a BETTER person for being thinner, and that's a really important point to note. 

I think until we stop trying to combine our self-worth with our size, instead of looking at them as two separate but very important issues, we're going to have a hard time winning the battle against obesity.   Your weight (no matter what side of the scale) does NOT determine your value.  Your body is science.  Your self esteem is up to you!

 
Diva Taunia is a professional musician and music educator living in the Greater Los Angeles area.  She can be found at www.divataunia.com or www.twitter.com/divataunia.
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Grainy Weather - Tips for Getting More Healthy Grains in Your Diet

The past few days have been unseasonably cold and windy here in Southern California.  Whenever it gets cold out, I'm reminded of being home in New England and immediately want comfort food to fill me up and keep me warm.  Some of my former comfort foods included pasta and rice, but I have a difficult time digesting those and they never really leave me feeling satisfied for long.   Because of that, I've been reading more about "other" grains that I'm completely clueless about.  I thought these might be worth sharing for those of you like me who are looking for healthier alternatives.  Some of these are also gluten-free (will be noted as such if it is with an *) as well, which is much gentler on my post-bariatric digestive system:  Read also  How Do You Get Enough Fiber on a Gluten-free Diet?

whole grains

 

Buckwheat (*):  a gluten-free fruit seed that you can use in place of pasta.  You cook it much like pasta. Cooking example:  bring two cups of liquid to a boil, add one cup of buckwheat, cover, and simmer for about 20 minutes.  You can eat it as a side with hearty veggies, or use it like a pasta with things like chicken and seafood.  It contains rutin, which helps to strengthen capillary walls.

Bulgar:  this is a really versatile grain because it hardly needs any cooking!  Much like rice noodles, you can soak this in bioling water for about  30-45 minutes. Bulgar has a texture similar to meats, so it's great to use in place of things liek beef in meatloaf and chili.  Of course, you can always use it in tabbouleh, the delicious middle-eastern salad.

Millet (*):  Millet is a gluten-free grain that's high in magnesium, which helps with nerve and muscle function. It's flavor is slightly corn-like and it's super-easy to prepare.  It can be toasted in a pain for a nuttier flavor, or just cooked as-it.  Cooking example: bring two and a half cups of liquid to a oil, add one cup of millet and cover and simmer for about 20 minutes.  It will turn out fluffy like rice, or creamy like porridge if you cook it in more liquid.  This is a great subsitute for potato.

Quinoa(*):  The mac-daddy of grains in the weight loss surgery post-op world because of it's high protein content.  It comes in white, black, and red varities, but they all have a ton of flavor with a hearty texture and taste.  This is a great substitute for pasta and rice salads.

Spelt:  Similar to wheat, it's slightly sweet and buttery, but not too starchy.  When cookied, it's similar to rice with fluffy separated grains.  Cooking example:  cook like pasta in lot of water for about 45 miinutes.  Drain and add things like pesto or dried fruit for different types of salads.

Rye flakes:  Very similar to rolled oats in texture.  You can serve them like oatmeal, can use it to make granola, or add to any bread or muffin recipe.  

You can find most of these right in the grocery store or in specialty stores like Trader Joe's or food markets. Cheers to delicious and healthy comfort food in the future!

Guest post by Diva Taunia, a professional musician and music educator located in the greater Los Angeles area."  

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Where Do I Fit In? Average and That's OK!

I think that I'll always consider myself the "fat girl."  Even at 165 lbs and 5'7", I still define myself that way. After a lifetime of others defining me that way, it's hard to shake that definition, that mindset. Six years out, I still have to work every day at treating myself better, and it's not always an easy task.  

mirror

When I look in the mirror, I see the remnants of a former me:  rolls of extra skin around my waistline that will never go away without plastic surgery (which I cannot get covered, nor can I afford out of pocket.) I see the cellulite on my 42 year old thighs, and the loose skin under my arms.  Shapewear helps a great with that, and once I'm dressed, I can often forget about those parts of my body that I dislike.

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What Size Do I Wear?

Still, I don't know how to define my body "type" anymore.  I wear a size 10 in pants, a size L or XL in a top to cover my poochy midsection.  (Note:  if that extra skin weren't there, I'd likely be a size medium).  In dresses, I can wear a size L if it is stretchy or knit material, but if it's fitted in any way, I wear a size XL or 14. I'm not thin, but I'm also not what's considered to be a true plus size.  So where does that leave me? 

Where Do I Shop?

It's leaves me smack dab in the middle of two sections of clothing in any store.  The good news is that I can shop almost anywhere now and find something that will look cute on me.  Still, I find myself always gravitating towards the plus size clothing.  I take things from the rack and try it on, knowing that it's too big for me, but also feeling comfort in being covered up by loose, hanging clothes.  It's the part of the "former" me that I can't let go of, even six years later.

What Type of Clothes Can I Wear?

There are things that I'll never be able to wear:  crop tops, blouses or tops tucked into my pants, short-shorts (although at 42, I probably shouldn't be wearing those anyhow).  But there's things that I can wear now that I never could (or would let myself) before:  spaghetti strap tops, dresses, high heels, lingerie.  

"Average is OK!"

I've worked pretty diligently on being positive about my body, and treating myself well despite the battle scars of a former morbidly-obese me.  I love fashion, but I also hate it - because it often reminds me of the shame I felt and still feel with a body that's not "perfect."  I'm not obese, but I'm not thin.  I guess that means that I am average.  And average is ok. Average is good.  Average is healthy.  Average is me.

Guest post by Diva Taunia, a professional musician and music educator located in the greater Los Angeles area."  

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The Shape of Things to Come

I had weight loss surgery six years ago, and I've done incredibly well with it.  I've maintained a loss of 150 lbs on my 5'7" frame, became a much healthier eater, have more options for clothes, and many other wonderful things that going along with losing the equivalent of a whole other person.  BUT, I've also never had plastic surgery.  I've never been covered by insurance either on the east coast in Boston (where I had my surgery) or here on the west coast at Kaiser.  When you lose a ton of weight, some of it just "evaporates" but most of it stays there, in a different form, as a constant reminder.

excess skin after weight loss surgery

I've been extremely fortunate because I didn't have a lot of extra skin on my legs and arms.  Even at 311 lbs, I was pretty active swing and latin dancing, so those parts of my body (that were smaller to begin with) stayed pretty toned throughout the whole process.  But my stomach?  Not so much.  I look like I've had the equivalent of a small children's choir living in my gut.  It's ridiculous.  And the (innocent, but uninformed) answer from people is usually, "Why don't you try exercise?"  "OMG!  Exercise?  Geesh, I hadn't thought of that!"  There are no numbers of crunches of push ups, of sits ups, of cross-training, kickboxing, zumba ANYTHING that will get rid of this gut.  For those of you who have had several children, you may be able to relate.  The only way this is going away is with some serious plastic surgery, which we have already discovered is not an option for me without insurance coverage.

If one of more person asks me "when I'm due," I may lose it and just start shopping strictly in the maternity department and start lying about when my beautiful, talented, genius of a children will be brought forth unto this world.

"But I've found options other than straight up insanity.  It's called shapewear."

Shapewear is daunting if you've never worn it before.  There are so many pieces to choose from, each helping with a different problem area, some working with all problem areas.  So what I've decided to do is give you the solutions and shapewear that I've found works best for me, with different types of outfits.  All are very affordable, but I consider shapewear an investment in my sanity. :)  It does take some getting used to - being stuffed into something like a sausage you can't eat anymore, but you'll become used to that too, and a lot of the restriction loosens up after a wash or two.  Here are my favorites:

DRESSES:  I live in dresses in the summer.  Because of this, I need a great shaper that works all-over, so I opt for the bodysuit shaper, which is almost like a bathing suit.  My absolute favorite is "Beauty by Bali" Smoothing Lace Shaping Bodysuit.  Not only is it an amazing piece of shapewear, but it is sexy as hell.  My husband LOVES these and thinks they look like amazing lingerie. You can also find these in most department store lingerie departments.  It's the ONLY piece of shape wear I wear with dresses.  It provides great midsection coverage and the girls look pretty damn good in it!

TOPS:  For tops of any kind, I always use the Self Expressions Cami Shaper from Maidenform. It comes in a range of sizes and colors, and could really be worn all on it's own as a top.  What I like about them is the the most shaping coverage is in the midsection (where I need it most) and it doesn't smoosh the girls.  Also, another bonus for tall upper torso girls like me is that it has adjustable straps and enough length to cover the pouchy midsection below the belly button.  I also really like Slimpressions Tanks A Little because it provides coverage for the mid section, but you can wear your own bra with it.  Plus, the material is SUPER comfortable.

BOTTOMS:  When it comes to bottoms, I'm fortunate enough that I don't need any coverage around the thigh or knee area.  I know lots of folks that do, though, so I thought I'd direct you to a few great companies for that:  Slimpressions, Spanx (which I find very expensive and very uncomfortable, but lots of ladies love them), and HERROOM has tons of great selections.  You can also do some searches on Ebay, Google Shopping, and Amazon.com for more items to choose from.

PANTIES:  I tend to wear lightweight shape wear panties or else I feel like I'm wearing a chastity belt.  I just need enough coverage to make sure the pooch doesn't get out of control.  I tend to like boy short cuts, and I can find a ton of different options at Bare Necessities.  If you sign up for their email you get access to a ton of discounts too, so I would definitely try that route.  I also love Slimpressions Full Cut Panty.  Really great coverage without sucking every ounce of air out of my body.  Seriously, though, they're very comfortable.

SUMMER TIPS:  As summer starts to roll around, we all start to freak out about SWIMSUITS.  Have no fear!  I have some helpful hints for that as well.  There is a great company called MiracleSuit that has some seriously rocking styles, but all have really great shaping coverage.  There's a reason "Miracle" is  in the name.  Here's the one I'm coveting for this summer: Tile Style Suit and Sarong.Diva Taunia with Tim Gunn

QUICK TIP:   Remember the Bali Bodysuit Shaper I mentioned at the top?  You can wear those under nearly any bathing suit to help you feel more shapely and confident.  I did that all last summer and it made me extremely comfortable to walk around in my suit.

Another tip?  Self-tanner.  I don't advocate tanning in the sun - it's bad for you!  But self-tanner can darken your skin a few shades and hide some of the extra cellulite and icky parts that we don't love so much.

Hopefully, you found this helpful.  Have any questions about where to shop or what types of shape wear to get?  Feel free to email me at info@divataunia.com.

Guest post by Diva Taunia, a professional musician and music educator located in the greater Los Angeles area." 

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Additions and Subtractions to Your Diet After Weight Loss Surgery

"What can you eat now?"  It's one of the first questions that I get asked by people.  

chinese food

At six years out from gastric bypass surgery, my answer is "almost anything."  It wasn't always that way, of course. The first few years, I couldn't eat things like ice cream, french fries, and other former staples in my diet. There would be immediate mutiny in my stomach if I even looked at those foods. So out of necessity, I just started eating a lot healthier and it soon became my "normal" way of eating. There are some things that I still cannot eat, but mostly there are things that I choose not to eat.

"Actually, the way lots of foods tasted was dramatically different."

I know many other weight loss surgery patients have said the same thing:  many of the foods in our former pre-op lives just taste awful now.  (There is actual scientific fact to back this up, such as this great article found here on Bariatric Times.) So I thought I'd create an addiction and subtraction list to get a glimpse into my post-op life eating.  Some of these foods are healthy, some are not.  Some of these foods I eat because I have to, some are because I want to.  Some of them are subtracted from my life for good for medical reasons. In all of these cases, it may be helpful to first get a glimpse at what I used to eat regularly first.

Before Weight Loss Surgery

Pre-op:  I lived alone in a large house and I taught music out of my home.  I barely left home, as a matter of fact.  My life consisted of take out food, ice cream, and ice cold glasses of Coke (which was my absolute favorite beverage in the world: several cubes in a nice glass - ahhh, heaven!).  My take out meals were almost always either pizza (of which I would eat approx 80% of the entire large pie) or chinese food takeout - enough for at least two large meals, which I would eat as one.)

When I had to go on the liquid diet for two weeks before surgery, I thought I.  was.  going.  to.  die. I literally thought I was going insane and that maybe I was making some horrible, horrible mistake.  I had 2-3 shakes a day and allowed myself two slices of low calorie toast with butter for the last meal of the evening.  I lost 14 lbs in two weeks, enough for the go-ahead for surgery.

I think I can probably skip the portion size and shakes description for the first few months after surgery. Most of you already know that. So, I'll jump straight to me six-years-out addition and subtraction lists with notes:

Six Years After Surgery

SUBTRACTIONS:

Soda:  any soda.  I cannot STAND the taste of it - whether it's diet or regular.  It all just tastes like a giant fuzzy glass of sugar and turns my stomach.  The only exception to this is ginger ale and I have the diet version ONLY when I have an upset stomach.

Chinese Food:  I never touch it any more, and if someone suggests we go to a chinese restaurant, I begrudgingly oblige.  The oily taste just completely turns my stomach.  (You might be happy to know, though, that pizza still remains a staple in my diet. More below.)

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Ice Cream:  In my post-op days, I have become lactose intolerant.  I can have a couple bites, but that's it. Any more than that and World War III breaks out in my gut.

Rice and Pasta:  I can't have it - of any kind.  Once it's inside my pouch, it expands and the pain is excruciating.  I love both, but I love being NOT in pain even more. Foods that are high in calcium oxalate stones can wreak havoc on a post-op who is susceptible to kidney stones. Other healthy but hurtful foods include spinach, beets, rhubarb, nuts, and wheat.  It's the spinach one that kills me. I love me some spinach.  *Note:  have questions about this?  Be sure to check with your surgeon or nutritionist!

ADDITIONS:

Cottage Cheese:  I know.  Some of you are rolling your eyes right now, but honestly, it's good stuff!  Knudsen offers cottage cheese doubles with amazing flavors like pineapple, peach, mango, and strawberry, and they're only 100 calories and completely fill me up in the morning with a cup of coffee.  Never in my life did I think cottage cheese would be a favorite of mine, but it is.  And speaking of cheese…

Cheese:  of all kinds, all varieties, I love, love, love it.  One of my absolute favorites is from Trader Joe's and it's called Unexpected Cheddar.  It's like cheese sent from the Gods.  It's a small square wrapped in cheese paper in the cheese section.  Buy it. You will thank me for it later.

Fruit:  my new sugar rush.  I love, love, love fruit.  In particular, I love pineapple, mango, red grapes, and bananas.  Any time I start getting a sweet tooth, I grab some good stuff.

Lean Cuisine:  I know it's a bit of a cop-out, but when I'm working at the school and need something quick to eat, this does the job. Usually the calorie count is pretty decent, and they have some great flavors like Turkey Dinner, Sesame Chicken (my favorite), steamed Asian dumplings, and even a great BBQ pizza.

Pizza:  This has never left my diet, I've only gotten more adventurous with the vegetable portions.  I love pretty much any veggie but a mushroom on my pizza.  And if it's well hidden, I'll even eat that.  I can only handle one piece of pizza on a good day, but believe me, I savor each bite.

Salad: Ok, so no dark greens like spinach, but I can create a pretty kick-ass salad with butter lettuce, romaine, or even regular iceberg.I think every salad should have veggies, cheese, egg, and some kind of small chopped meat.   And I usually add some tortilla strips for crunch.  And salad dressing?  I either make my own (lite vinaigrette) OR, I usually use a regular honey mustard as a dressing.  Trader Joe's make the BEST sweet and spicy honey mustard in the world.  Go buy it in vats.  You'll thank me later.

Vitamins and Supplements: It goes without saying that I'm a huge fan of Wellesse Liquid Supplements.  As someone who is Vitamin D deficient and also anemic, going without vitamins in my diet is NOT an options.  Check with your surgeon and dietician and make sure that you are including your vitamins as part of your new post-op world diet.

So that's about it.  I eat pretty normally now with a few exceptions.  I am by no means a nutritionist or dietician, I just go by the info they've given me and the research I've done.  Hope this helps you know what to expect.  At six years out I'm living and eating great!

Guest post by Diva Taunia, a professional musician and music educator located in the greater Los Angeles area."

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Pizza on the Brain - Can I Ever Eat It Again?

Ah yes, the old "will I still be able to eat pizza???"  It's the most often-asked question, and I totally get it.

Veggie Pizza - see www.budgetbytes.com

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This coping mechanism that you've been using for years - if not decades - is suddenly and quite dramatically being taken away from you.    Again, this is from my  own personal experience - others may have had different experiences, so always do your research!  


My first two years post-surgery were tough eating-wise. I was simultaneously battling a life-threatening kidney problem, so I was barely hungry, ever.  I drank a ton of shakes (some that I still really love and can suggest below**). But at about a year out, I was able to have three of the most delicious bites of pizza I have ever tasted. A lot of the things that I used to love tasted AWFUL to me now - like Coke, Chinese food, any sweet type of drink, bleck!  But pizza? To this day it remains a favorite (although it's harder to find good NY style pizza out here in SoCal!).  And I can eat exactly one slice with a small glass of wine.  That's it, but it makes me feel full and satisfied.  It's a usual Friday night staple for my husband and I:  veggie pizza, wine, and a Redbox movie.

"I don't diet, and I never will."

I'm kind of perplexed by the questions about what diets I am on.  I don't diet, and I never will.  For me, I rely solely on how I feel.  If my pants start feeling a snug around the waist, I change what I'm eating.  If I feel sluggish, I know I am not eating enough nutritious foods and probably eating things that are fast, but lack in nutritional value.  What I consider myself now is a "normal" person.  I still love food.  I love, love, love to cook.  But I absolutely refuse to be a slave to food, my weight , or the scale anymore.  It makes me crazy (crazier than before, lol).  

When my husband and I moved in together, he refused to let me have a scale in the house.  And this week after visiting my doctor and seeing a 3 lb gain, he wouldn't even listen to me talk about it.  "3 pounds?  Are you nuts?   You look exactly the same to me.  We're not talking about it."  That was the first time I gained in about a year and it also coincided with my time of the month (oh yeah, don't think you get out of that when you get into perimenopause - oh joy!).  I backed away and looked at it rationally.  

What I try to do now is just try to make reasonably healthy choices, move more, and enjoy this new life that I've been given.  That's the "diet" I am on now.  Maybe I'll go order a veggie pizza for dinner.  :)

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Guest post by Diva Taunia, a professional musician and music educator located in the greater Los Angeles area.  More information can be found at www.divataunia.com.  Read also by Taunia : The "Unsolicited Advice" Syndrome - Thanks but NO Thanks!

**Some of my favorite and tasty shakes:

•    Smoothies with my with Wellesse Liquid Supplements
•    Lean Dessert Chocolate Fudge Pudding
•    Big Train's Blended Ice Coffees

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The "Unsolicited Advice" Syndrome - Thanks but NO Thanks!

At one point or another in your life, you've probably experienced some friendly "unsolicited advice." Something charming like, "You have such a pretty face, if only you'd lose weight."  
 

someecards.com - “Unsolicited advice is like someone singing out of tune. Nobody wants to hear it.”

 
I always loved when people would point out to me that cutting calories and exercising "would help me lose weight."   OMG!  Thank you!  I have never in my 40+ years even CONSIDERED that!  (Yes, that was sarcasm.)  I would get comments like that ALL. THE. TIME. And despite it being so constantly rude, I was always very polite in responding.
 
Now here I am - six years and 150 lbs older and lighter - and ANY time I see someone morbidly obese, I want to walk over to them and tell them there's a solution, there's help.  I'm a walking success story, and a complete asshat.  What kind of pompous person would EVER do that? Certainly not the same one that dealt with that my entire life, right?  Well, the good news is that I have never ACTUALLY said something like that to anyone.  I put my story up on YouTube and my blog and figured if people were interested in my story, they'd ask.  And I was right.  Lots of folks would send me messages and emails (and sometimes even little thank you packages!), and if someone took the time to ask for my input, I would certainly make time to answer them.  
 
When I did reply, I was always cautious to be very clear that this was MY story, MY experience, and that there were many other folks with differing experiences and they should talk to them as well.  I felt like I was pretty good at balancing my own personal success with the importance of researching what the risks might be.  Still, whenever I was out and saw someone morbidly obese, and saw them suffering, I wanted to run over and give them a sermon on the blessings of weight loss surgery.  Can I get an AMEN?  (Please don't.)
 
 
Now, there will be people who disagree with me on this.  I know a few people who were approached in a similar manner and it was that which led them to get the surgery, and they are outwardly thankful about that.  And I really do support their story, but I also support and understand that's not always the norm.  I can't even count on both hands the number of times that people suggested it to me.  It infuriated me to think that others just thought that I should jump on the operating table and just get it done.  It infuriated me mostly because I knew that 90% of the people that said things like that were really just thinking "you'd be so much prettier if you lost weight."  It was never really about the health.  And I'd be lying if I didn't admit that there was a small part of me that wanted to look better, but mostly I just wanted to FEEL better - healthier.

But my promise to myself is this:  I will never, ever offer unsolicited advice to someone overweight.  

I know what that kind of shame feels like.  I know what it feels like to have someone make judgements about you based solely on the space you occupy.  I also know that sometimes insurance just won't cover it and they don't have the means.  It's not MY place to give them the ol' pep talk and get them to open up, and it's not yours either.  I see a lot of folks in the weight loss surgery community boards talk openly about this, and I get that you all just live by example, answer questions about your own personal journey and point folks in the right direct for resources.  Unless you're a medical doctor, it's not your place to suggest it.  It's certainly not mine.  I can't help the dialogue that happens in my head sometimes, but I know when to filter, and that's the key.  Just be a good version of me.  That's all I can do.
 
Guest post by Diva Taunia, a professional musician and music educator located in the greater Los Angeles area.  More information can be found at www.divataunia.com.
 
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Pregnancy after Weight Loss Surgery

Guest Post by Diva Taunia, a professional musician and music educator located in the greater Los Angeles area.  More information can be found at www.divataunia.com.
 
 
In my last blog What Would I Have Done Differently with My Bariatric Weight Loss Surgery? , I gave you a bit of a teaser in hopes that you'd come back and read my next entry.  If you're reading this, my sneaky plan has worked!  (Thanks for coming back, I appreciate it.)
 
I had mentioned that if I could change something about my surgery, it would have been when I had the surgery. I was 36 when I had the surgery and 38 by the time I had lost all the weight.  Besides being able to be much more physically active and really participate (fully) in things that I loved like swing and latin dancing, there was one major problem that I never anticipated ever being an issue for me:  fertility.
 
fertility after bariatric weight loss surgery
 
Anyone who knows me, has known that I was childless by choice.  I was a step parent in my previous marriage, which was one of the most difficult things I ever had to do.  The kids were great and I loved them, but when the marriage didn't work, I was happy to go back to being single and childless.  People thought I was crazy, and almost everyone I ran into said, "Oh, that's just how you feel now. You'll change your mind someday."    That comment always infuriated me, because I was completely happy being a non-parental unit.  Until...
 
Rewind to two years ago, when I got a random email from my college sweetheart, who I hadn't seen or heard from in 17 years.  He found out I was divorced and asked if I'd like to get together and catch up.  He lived in Southern California, so I didn't think anything of it.  I bet you can guess where this is going (if you don't already know).
 
We began seeing each other again, and eventually I decided that because I didn't have children I was looking forward to an exciting adventure and would move from Boston to the Los  Angeles area to be with him.  Months later, he proposed and we got married last April.  Neither of us had children.  Neither of us ever WANTED children.  Until...
 
Until we got married.  We were both back with the love of our lives and realized that the reason we never wanted children before was because we weren't with people we could even imagine  being a parent with.  We got married older:  I was 41 and he was 43.  We knew it would be tough, but decided that we needed to find out where we stood with fertility.  We also decided that we wouldn't take any extraordinary measures to get pregnant.  We just wanted to know what our chances were at this age.
 
I scheduled an appointment with my doctor to discuss my options.  She  told me to immediately start taking multivitamins, folic acid, and other supplemental nutrients to help prepare my body for possibly becoming pregnant. As a gastric bypass patient, she was very concerned that I began those things early to ensure that if I were to get pregnant I would be nutritionally sound.  She and several other doctors immediately said the same thing:  take pre-natal and multivitamins even when the thought of pregnancy was just that, a thought  They stressed the importance of that over and over again, I did what I was told. 
 
I went and had a fertility test done and found out that I was in the beginning of peri-menopause.  My chances of getting pregnant are 1%.  It's very unlikely and makes me incredibly sad that we had not found each other earlier.  I am sad that I spent so many years being morbidly obese with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) and fertility issues.  I am sad that I had not decided to get the surgery when I was a bit younger so that I'd still have a chance.  I can't help but think if I had done this in my late twenties, that I may have been able to get pregnant.  But I also know I wasn't ready for that, and didn't want it then.
 
This is the first time I have ever spoken about this publicly, as it's still very difficult to wrap my head around.  But I feel like it's an important cautionary tale for anyone suffering from PCOS and morbid obesity who may want to someday become pregnant.   My life is incredible now.  I can do just about anything I want - except conceive.  It's a bitter pill to swallow, but one that we're learning to cope with. (Please note:  we know that there are other options that would help us conceive, but have decided those are not options that we want to explore.  We just want to be as healthy and joyful as we can with the life we've been given.)
 
Thankfully, my husband and I have an incredible relationship.  Children may not be in the cards for us, but it may be for someone else.   I hope that my experience may help someone struggling with a decision like this.
 
 

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What Would I Have Done Differently with My Bariatric Weight Loss Surgery?

Guest Post by Diva Taunia, a professional musician and music educator located in the greater Los Angeles area.  More information can be found at www.divataunia.com.

For those of you who may not be familiar with me or my story, I had Laproscopic RNY Gastric Bypass Surgery almost six years ago at Boston Medical Center with Dr. Donald Hess.  

At my highest weight, I was 311 lbs (at 5'7").  Six years later, I'm maintaining my weight at a very comfortable 165 lbs.  Weight loss surgery was one of the best decisions of my life.  I happily share my story with anyone interested, and always try to answer emails and questions from folks when I can.  I try to still maintain my YouTube channel and give updates about my post-op life and (much of that will now be chronicled here on this blog as well) and all of my pre-surgery videos until now are available for anyone looking to research life after weight loss surgery.

Diva Taunia Bariatric Weight Loss Surgery

 

I thought that for my first blog here, I'd answer the most common question I get, which is "would you do it all over again if you had the choice?"  The answer is a resounding YES.  However, there are definitely things that I would change now that I have the hindsight of six years experience.  

First, I would have researched my vitamin options a LOT more.

Truth be told, I didn't even know about Wellesse Liquid Supplements until I was well-into the stage where I could take actual pills again.  But as much as I tried in those first few years, I had lots of problems getting my vitamins because only a handful of them were offered in a chewable form - the rest were caplets and pills.  I know that I wasn't good at taking my vitamins, despite my liking the companies I used and the flavors that were offered.  It was just too difficult. If I had known a great-tasting liquid option was available, it would have been a huge boost in my nutrition and health, because I would have been much more dedicated to taking them. And the thing is, even now - at six years out where I can take any form of medication/vitamins/supplements I can - I still use Wellesse because it's the easiest, fastest, and tastiest way to get in my vitamins.  Granted, that's a full-on promo plug for Wellesse for sure, but it also happens to be the truth.

Second, I would have had surgery at a younger age.

The other thing that I would have changed is when I had the surgery.  I was 35 when I started researching it, and 36 when I had surgery.  It took another two years for me to get to my settled weight, and another two years after that to figure out how to get myself and my body nutritionally sound as I started to get older.  The only thing I regret is that I would have made that decision sooner, so that I could have been living my life the way I am now at (almost) 42.  My life was affected by my weight in such dramatic ways - some that I didn't even know about until I had lost the weight and saw how different things were.  

And finally, there was one very monumental thing that was affected by the date/time/age that I decided to have the surgery.  My next blog will go into detail about that.  (Teaser, I know…but it's an important topic - especially for women, so I hope you'll bookmark this blog and come back to read it.)

Despite those things, weight loss surgery remains one of the best and most positive decisions I ever made for my life and my health.  Yes, I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat.

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Evening Eating: Are Your Actually Hungry or Do You Just Want to Eat?

You've had dinner, the kitchen is cleaned up, and it's time to relax and watch TV or a movie. You plop yourself into the chair and put your feet up. You're enjoying your show and before you know it, your head is telling you it's snack time.
 

But are you hungry or do you just want to eat?

 
More than likely, you're not hungry and just want to eat. Even if you've had bariatric surgery, you are not immune from the evening eating demons. It's important to look at the reasons why you want to eat even though you've just had dinner. 
 
You have trained yourself to eat in front of the TV and it's become a learned behavior. When you sit down your brain says, "Time to eat." It's not just the TV that can be a problem. You can train yourself to eat in front of the computer and that may be your evening relaxation.
 
Is this emotional eating? Are your looking for relaxation, are you bored, or are you looking for a distraction from what is going on in your life? 
 
Wellesse Health Fact Eating in front of the tv
 

How do you determine if you're hungry or just want to eat?

I teach this simple, but very effective strategy, to my patients. Think of a food that when you eat it, it's OK, you enjoy it, but you don't want another portion when you're finished. When you're done, you're done. What food comes to your mind? Some common examples are apples, cottage cheese, yogurt, eggs, chicken, broccoli, or tuna. The food you have selected is what I call your anchor food. That is the food that is "safe" for you. It's not a trigger food leading you to overeating, and it's satisfying enough so you don't go looking for something better to eat.
 
When you have determined your anchor food, use this strategy. When your head tells you it wants something to eat, ask yourself this question. "Do I want to eat (anchor food)? If the answer is, "No, I don't want (anchor food).  I want chips, cookies, or ice cream," you are not hungry. So if you are not hungry, what else is going on? More than likely it is emotional eating. If the answer is yes and you are willing to eat your anchor food, you probably are hungry and it's OK to eat that food since it doesn't lead to overeating for you. It's a good idea to keep your anchor food available for the times you determine you really are hungry. 
 
The most common emotion I hear leading to evening eating is boredom.
 
I give my patients a homework assignment to deal with this evening eating and grazing problem. Make a list of things to do to keep yourself busy that don't involve food and that will get you away from the TV or computer. If you decide to watch TV, keep your hands busy with craft work, riding a stationary bike, walking on your treadmill, using an exercise ball, marching in place. Just do something else while you sit there. 
 
Something to keep in mind before you eat that evening snack when you are not hungry is that you can undo an entire day of healthy eating in 10 to 15 minutes. Think before you eat.
 
Eat Smart...
Vicki Bovee, MS, RDN, LD
 
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4 Key Ways to Keep Your Weight On Track During the Holidays

The holiday season is underway with parties, dinners, potlucks, and baking which translates into food, more food, and too much food. How does one stay on track and still enjoy the food and festivities?
 
Holiday Treats
 
Years ago in my career, I worked for the University of Nevada School of Medicine as a research dietitian. One of the research studies, funded by a liquid meal replacement company,  with which I was involved studied the prevention of weight gain over the holiday season. We conducted the study for three years over the weeks from Thanksgiving through New Year's Day. We developed holiday eating messages which were tested and refined each year. At the end of the third year we knew what worked and what didn't work. Since that time I have focused my career on weight loss surgery with Western Bariatric Institute. But I have continued to use these messages for myself and I have continued to teach them to my patients because I know they work to prevent weight gain and allow you to still enjoy some of holiday foods.    Holiday Weight Gain - Fact or Fiction?
 

Key messages for holiday weight management

1. Eat only one small treat a day.

Often times, especially at work, we have access to candies, cookies, and other treats. They are brought into the office by coworkers, clients, vendors, or business partners. Sometimes these treats find their way into your home. Telling yourself for 8 to 12 hours a day that you can't have it may lead to feelings of deprivation. Then if you decide to indulge, it's more likely you will overeat and then there feeling of guilt afterwards. Allow yourself one small piece of candy, one small cookie, or one other small treat per day. Be choosey because once you've eaten it, you're done for the day. If you choose to eat a cookie at your morning break, know that the next treat comes tomorrow.

2. Eat only three small appetizers at a party. 

These foods may be small but they pack a lot of calories. Check out these bites: 1 mini-quiche = about 90 calories each, 1 cream cheese stuffed jalapeno pepper= about 75 calories, 2 small smoked sausages in barbeque sauce = about 85 calories, 1 bacon wrapped scallop = about 80 calories and 2 tablespoons spinach dip = about 90 calories (without crackers). If you ate the above appetizers you would have consumed about 330 calories, 21 grams of fat (58% of the total calories) and 930 mg sodium. Again, be choosey and select the three most appealing to you. This probably won't fill you up, but this type of event is not a meal. Fill up on the lower calorie items available.

Sneaky Calories - Identifying them is half the battle!

3. Include fruits and/or veggies at all meals and snacks.

Foods that are high in fiber and water content will help fill you up and keep you feeling satiated more than dry foods since they stay in the pouch or stomach longer.

4. Use a meal replacement shake for the meal before and after a holiday meal or party.

Since you may be eating more calories at this meal than normal, you will need to balance out your intake. Using a portion-controlled meal replacement is an effective way to make that balance happen. In our study we found that the shake produced better results than using a packaged portion controlled food, such as a frozen dinner. So if your event is in the evening, have a shake for lunch and then again for breakfast the next day. 

The holidays don't have to mean weight gain. If you have many challenges, focus on maintaining your weight. Your stomach or pouch doesn't know it's the holiday season. Your head needs to get in step with your goals. Stay focused and eat smart.  Be sure to remember to take your vitamins and supplements each day too! 
 
Healthy Holidays!
Guest post by Vicki Bovee, MS, RDN, LD 
 
 

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8 Tips to Break a Weight Loss Plateau

You've been faithful with your diet and exercise program but the scale is stuck. It can be frustrating to work hard and not see positive results. It may be tempting to throw your hands in the air and say, "What's the use of continuing with this? I'm doing everything right, and the scale isn't moving."

Hitting a weight loss plateau is normal, even with bariatric surgery. Your body is not programmed to lose a certain amount of weight every week. There are numerous factors that affect your rate of weight loss.

A person with a higher BMI will generally lose more weight in the first few months than a person with a lower BMI. I have also seen people who lose a significant amount of weight before surgery, have a slower weight loss after surgery, and hit a plateau sooner than someone who has minimal weight loss preoperatively.

As you lose weight, the amount of calories you need to run your body decreases since you have less pounds to support. So if you were eating 1500 calories a day and losing weight, eventually that 1500 calories will need to be reduced to continue with weight loss. If the scale has been stuck for a couple of weeks, either you need to cut calories from your intake or increase your activity and burn more calories.

Check out my favorite plateau busting tips.

  • Keep a food record of everything you eat and drink. It is easy to forget about the calories from beverages, or the calories consumed while grazing. Grazing can stop weight loss in its tracks and is one of the major causes of weight regain.  Keep Losing the Pounds with a Food Diary
     
  • Drink a protein shake for at least one meal a day. If your surgical practice required you to follow a liquid diet before surgery, you can use that plan.
     
  • Eat your protein first and watch the carbs from starchy foods. Eating a diet higher in lean protein is more satiating than eating a lot of carbs. All calories are not created equal.
     
  • Change up your exercise program. If you are a walker, walker faster, change the route, or include some hills in your walk. If you are at the gym, work with a trainer to keep your routines changing. Bariatric Surgery Patients Continue to Lose Weight with Rigorous Exercise
     
  • Look for ways to increase movement in your daily activities. If you are picking something up off the floor, squat down and use your legs instead of your back. Get up and move from your desk or the sofa every 45 minutes.  Want to Help Rev Up Your Metabolism?
     
  • Wear a pedometer. The goal for Americans is 10,000 steps a day. This is equal to approximately 5 miles and burns about 500 calories.
     
  • Weigh yourself no more than once or twice a week. It is only more stressful to be on the scale every day.
     
  • Sometimes you just might need a booster. Check in with your program dietitian to help you set some goals and hold you accountable.  Make sure you are taking your daily vitamins and supplements to help your energy levels!

Relax. Weight loss is a process and it takes time. If your head is on straight, the numbers will follow.

Eat Smart...

Vicki Bovee, MS, RDN, LD, Wellesse Bariatric Expert

 

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